“The truth is, unless you let go, unless you forgive yourself, unless you forgive the situation, unless you realize that the situation is over, you cannot move forward.” – Steve Maraboli (1)
If we want to emotionally survive in this world, we’ll want to learn to roll with the punches and let things go. Things will happen each day that we’d rather ignore or hide from, and the best thing we can do is embrace them and ask ourselves how we can solve the problems they’ve presented.
Or, we can hide away and hate the world for the challenges it gives us. It’s easy to stay rooted in our own negativity, which can pop up at random times over silly things that, when we look back on, we wonder why we reacted so strongly to, but happiness will seem further and further away if we do.
I’ve had plenty of experience with the self-created negativity that comes with facing challenges, and it’ll get us down and keep us from shining our light all day if we let it. It’s far more worth our time to willingly meet the challenges we face as we flow through life, but as long as we let it, the mind’s rigidity will keep us from handling challenge in a centered way.
The mind has a lot of rules, judgments and expectations, and the moment something happens that we don’t care for or we wish would just go away, it sends out all kinds of negativity that can cause us to sink down into depression.
Little do we know that all we need to diminish the mind-centered rigidity that hinders us is unconditional love, and together with an open mind, love will make every challenge easier and more worthwhile.
Despite how hard we try to embody love, there’s a force within some of us that’ll do everything it can to stop us. It’s driven by our unresolved habits and tendencies that have been caused by trauma we accumulated early in life (or even in past lives), and it’ll wreck our love and spirituality if we let it.
It’ll bombard us with negative emotion out of the blue and leave us to deal with the fallout, which, as some of us know, can be pretty hard. The hardest thing to do once we’ve sunk into negativity or depression is climb up out of it, and while some people have no problem letting negativity go, it’s difficult for others.
As hard as it is, however, we’ll have to learn to let it go if we want mental and emotional stability. Peace of mind comes when we can observe the world in a detached way – with no judgments or emotions, good or bad, fogging our vision and keeping us from enjoying what we see around us.
This unbroken peace is a goal most of us strive for, but we tend to instantly abandon it for something earthly that’s more appealing. Inner peace is great, but how do we feel about it when we’re tempted to get mad about something?
As strange as it sounds, the mind (and ego) sometimes likes to be angry. It likes to have something to fight for, and it definitely likes to express itself in big, bold ways. It’s concerned with its survival, and one of the ways it survives is by being as loud, disruptive and assertive as it can.
I don’t mean to make it sound like some boogeyman, and as we’ve learned, it can help or hurt us depending on how we use it. It’s definitely afraid for its survival, however, and the more we blissfully sink into the essence of our sacred self, the less we need it and the more apparent its imminent death becomes.
I say ‘death’, but even in the higher realms, we’ll probably have some sort of ‘ego’. It won’t be the kind of ego we have right now, but we’ll always create with our mind no matter what state of consciousness we inhabit.
The mind will always be around, even if certain aspects of the ego are departing as we raise our vibration, and this makes it even more important to use it as an instrument for the expression of the heart and the intuition.
The mind and ego are two of our greatest tools, and they’ll enable us to create a spiritually abundant lifestyle if we can use them without letting them use us. They can also turn us into angry, materialistic beasts with a hunger that can never be satisfied, so we’ll want to be careful.
“Make your ego porous. Will is of little importance, complaining is nothing, fame is nothing. Openness, patience, receptivity, solitude is everything.” – Rainer Maria Ralke (2)
One of the favored tactics of a broken or fractured ego is to rebel like a small child when something happens we don’t want to accept. Instead of letting the issue go, we yell, stamp our feet and do anything necessary to ‘get our way’, and whoever doesn’t let us get our way will certainly pay.
There isn’t always someone else involved when the ego gets out of hand, but there sometimes is and it’s easy to rebel against them for the role they unwittingly play in whatever upsets us.
What we don’t realize is that they have nothing to do with our anger, and it all comes from within. We decide on an impulse to get angry or upset about something most of the time, and the first thing we do is blame the external situations (or people) we think are at fault.
We’ll never get to the root of the problem if we think this way, and with some serious inner searching, we’ll discover that the problem has never been out there – it’s always lived within. We could have some of the worst, most awful experiences and come out of them as shining diamonds if we’re in a certain frame of mind.
Similarly, we could have some of the best experiences and still be sad about something we didn’t attain or experience.
It’s all about the frame of mind we decide to occupy, and those of us who’ve felt attacked by the negativity we then impulsively embrace will want to find some way to let go of it and move on, despite how appealing it can be to hold on to.
Personally, it helps me to stay busy with the blog, writing and music, and writing out the challenges I experience really helps me work through them and gain a new perspective. Music’s the same way, and we can write a song about the challenges we face, thereby working through them and enjoying a beautiful melody in the process.
Balance will always be important, especially when it comes to transcending our self-created negativity, and if we can stay balanced and keep our thoughts aligned with our essence, our negativity will be easier to transcend and the situations that feed it will be easier to move on from.
We’ll want to stay diligent, but it’ll all pay off in the end. It can pay off right now too, because the more balanced and diligent we are, the more we’ll enjoy life right now.
“If you want to forget something or someone, never hate it, or never hate him/her. Everything and everyone that you hate is engraved upon your heart; if you want to let go of something, if you want to forget, you cannot hate.” – C. Joybell C. (3)
- Goodreads.com: ‘Quotes About Letting Go’ – http://www.goodreads.com/quotes/tag/letting-go
- Goodreads.com: ‘Quotes About Ego’ – http://www.goodreads.com/quotes/tag/ego
- ‘Quotes About Letting Go’ Ibid.
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